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First Generation | Health Education and Human Sciences | Lion Voices | StudentsOctober 26, 2023

First Gen Voices: Mayeli Rivas

Written By: First-Generation Committee

Mayeli Rivas, a junior nursing student, grew up in Fort Smith with dreams of attending college and, hopefully, achieving better employment opportunities as a result. As a University of 杏吧原创 鈥� Fort Smith student, she has become the first in her family to attend college, an accomplishment she said they have supported and encouraged. Mayeli continues to work toward earning her degree to make her family proud and to be a role model for her younger siblings.

One of Mayeli鈥檚 most endearing qualities is her sense of humor. When asked, 鈥淲hat does being a first-generation college student mean to you?鈥� she compared it to being the character Mario in the Donkey Kong game.

鈥淟ife is a game that will keep throwing obstacles toward you,鈥� she explained. 鈥淪ometimes you can avoid it; other times you must reevaluate the situation and start over. Not having a collegiate guide to point you in the right direction creates self-doubt.鈥�

As a first-generation student, she shared that she wasn鈥檛 always equipped with the necessary resources to overcome obstacles like the barrels Mario jumps over. Still, she hasn鈥檛 let it stop her from climbing the ladder to success.

鈥淢y family represents Princess Peach, but instead of crying for help, they cheer me on. They have continued to succeed in their game of life and are waiting for me to accomplish my personal goals,鈥� Mayeli said. 鈥淭hey may not be able to help me win the game of life inherently, but when I do, they will serve as a reminder of how it started and how far I have gotten. Without my parents continued cheers of support, encouragement, and positivity, I would not be a strong person that can finish the game. I may reach a broken ladder or worsen my situation by going up another, but I will continue to push forward because that鈥檚 what my parents taught me.鈥�

Despite Mayeli鈥檚 parents being her most prominent supporters, explaining some of the challenges she faces as a first-generation college student can be difficult.

鈥淭he biggest challenge I have faced was being unable to confide with my parents about my university struggles,鈥� she said. 鈥淢y parents have not gone to college and don鈥檛 understand the depth and difficulty of being a college student. I talk to my parents about my many struggles, but when it comes to college struggles, I tend to shut them out and feel alone.鈥�

However, Mayeli found a community of others like her who face the same type of struggle, and these interactions have helped her feel more included. She said that by being involved in activities like First Gen Fridays, 鈥淐ollege has many resources to help you succeed, and programs like First Gen show us what we may be missing. The stories of other first-generation college graduates have continued to help me acknowledge that others have gone through similar experiences and have been able to succeed.鈥�

Mayeli鈥檚 time on the beautiful 杏吧原创 campus began in 9^th grade at Darby Junior High (now Darby Middle School). She was accepted into the Upward Bound Math/Science program and remained there until 2021, when she graduated. She credited the Upward Bound staff for significantly impacting her journey to college and success once she arrived.

鈥淭he two who have made the most impact on my life are Liana Jerry and Christin Staats鈥�they have been crucial to my journey as a first-generation student,鈥� Mayeli shared. 鈥淐hristin was my Upward Bound high school advisor, and she has been incredibly supportive. Whenever I felt burnt out or felt imposter syndrome, she was there to assure me of my successes. She has been my recommendation on every college, scholarship, and job application.

鈥淟iana was my tutoring advisor during high school and my unofficial writing center. She is always open to listening to my worries and has helped tremendously with my speech and English classes. Liana is amazing at listening and trying to understand my problems. She doesn鈥檛 just listen; she provides me with options. I might feel like I cannot find a solution, but she may have been through what I have been through, and she shows me that the solutions are there. Most of all, they showed me that anything is possible when I set my mind to it.鈥�

Mayeli is paving the way for her two younger siblings and scores of other first-generation students just like her. She would give a future first-gen student some advice: 鈥淒o not let anyone diminish your successes by comparing yourself to others. Not one person knows the answer to life. Understand that your priorities and responsibilities are different from others. You may be successful in one aspect of life but not in another. That does not mean you need to give up. It means it may take longer, or you must find another way to solve a problem. Your successes are for yourself, not for others. If you feel a sense of accomplishment, do not let anyone else cloud it.鈥�

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